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Silence
Silence is not a healthy answer of a communicator. It is passive aggressive at best, emotionally abusive at worst. It can be signs of a frozen trauma response. It is a wall for when you cannot maturely state the boundary you need—which is sometimes required when things are too painful or over. Or it is an acceptance that the one you don’t respond to, wouldn’t hear you anyways. Otherwise, it is a response that separates and divides people, that wall. It blocks. It is not a goal of healthy communication in ongoing relationships, which is always assertive and direct. So if your goal is to block or end connection, and you cannot for various reasons offer a mature communication response, than just know your silence should be your final answer.
If you want to change that approach, learn to unpack where in the past you learned the silent treatment or being stuck in a frozen response from. Taking some time to think through your response before answering is absolutely healthy, but not responding says far more about us and how we emotionally handle conflict than it often does the situation itself.
Learn. Grow. 😌🌱
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Turtle cat
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a portal
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fresh summer bouquet
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Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec - Waking Up (1896)
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book dedications are so tender here is this piece of art i made for an audience of thousands. but really every word is for you
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holding my own face in my own hands and screaming “there is no connection without an open heart! you must be brave! you must be honest! you must be true!” in the mirror
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(Source: weheartit.com)
